Bitches in Tech
Done pretending it's fine.
Real stories, named patterns, and survival tactics for women who work (or worked) in tech and are done pretending it is fine. Not empowerment content. The group chat you wish you had at every company.
The Pattern Library
Named, searchable phenomena. Put a name to what you're experiencing.
The Credit Redirect
You say the thing. It goes nowhere. A man says the same thing. Now it's a great idea.
The Tone Police
Your point was fine. Your delivery is the problem. It is always, somehow, your delivery.
The Strategic Smile
The face you put on so the room stays comfortable while you absorb the thing that just happened.
The Competence Tax
He gets the benefit of the doubt. You get the follow-up question. Every time.
The Invisible Workload
The notes, the onboarding, the morale, the glue. Everyone relies on it. No one counts it.
The Likeability Penalty
Be warm and you're not serious. Be direct and you're not nice. There is no setting that reads as both.
The Debrief
Real stories: what happened, what she did, what she wishes she'd done, what she knows now.
The roadmap that was mine
I built the roadmap. He presented it. Leadership thanked him. I smiled and said it was a team effort. Here's what I'd do differently.
Intimidating, with no examples
My review said I was intimidating. I asked for one example. There wasn't one. Here's how I stopped carrying it.
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